I asked Brett what I should focus our next blog post on and he responded “how awesome your husband is!” haha! Sooo, along those lines I started thinking about exactly that and how our relationship has been shaped. One thing that stands out in my mind about our relationship is our timeline. Brett and I met in September of 2009, started dating in February 2010, got engaged in July 2010, and we married in July of 2012.
Before getting engaged we spent 5 months dating one another. Yes! We know! 5 months. And they were awesome. In that time between when we went on our first 8-hour date in Champaign and when Brett asked me to marry him in California we spent 5 months together….5 real months…5 months of stressful decisions, life happenings, and a lot of school work. In that time Brett met my family and I met his. We decided to continue past our masters programs into PhD programs. Brett stated that if we were going to be in school for so long together we should learn to study together, so we did that too…a lot of it. We spent hours working from school, our apartments, and cafes together. Brett whole heartedly adopted my dog Caya as his own…we even joked that he was dating her and I was a fun bonus 😉 For 5 months Brett and I went salsa dancing together almost every week. Brett made me lots of yummy dinners during that 5 months…and I made us homemade pasta without the aid of a rolling pin…but Brett helped with that too so I guess either he cooked or we did it together 🙂 During that time I learned how Raj and Brett are attached at the hip and how neither are very aware of their surroundings when within 72 hours of a conference paper deadline. I learned not to take this personally. During those 5 months my mother was in treatment for a brain tumor and had a stroke as a complication of one of the surgeries…and Brett and I were together for that. After those 5 months I knew that I didn’t want to live the rest of my life without him and that I could take a chance on whatever I had yet to learn about his wonderful life and personality.
During the next 2 years even more happened. We spent a few months living with my parents while my mother’s health declined. We went through my own cancer diagnosis and treatments. We moved in together. We each graduated with our masters degrees and started our PhDs. We visited friends in Boston together and took small weekend trips to Chicago or Michigan. We got a new puppy, Inca. 🙂 Brett helped me get back into running and started to teach me racquetball. We lived long distance between Huntsville and Seattle. We learned how to give and how to take, how to care for one another and how to care for ourselves. Now we’ve been married 8 months, 1 week, and 2 days and I still know exactly what I knew after having only spent 5 months with Brett…I don’t want to live the rest of my life without you and I will take a chance on whatever I have yet to learn about your wonderful life and personality.
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